Words of Wisdom & Living

Sunday, October 09, 2005

Quotable Quotes

1) The Holy Prophet Mohammad said “A good deed is one that brings a smile of joy to the face of another”.

2) William James Said, ”Faith is one of the forces by which men live & total absence of it means collapse”.

3) Epictetus said, “The essence of Philosophy is that man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things.

4) Marcus Airelius said. “Our life is what our thoughts make it”.

5) Buddha said, “Hatred is never ended by hatred but love”.

6) William James said,” Acceptance of what has happened is the first step in over coming the consequences of any misfortunes”.

7) Confucious said, “To know that we know what we know and we don’t know what we don’t know that is true knowledge”.

8) Shakespeare said, “Wise men never sit and wait their loss but cheerily seek how to redress their harms.”

9) Lord Chestenfield said, “ Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so.”

10) Dale Carneigi said, “ The most relaxing & recreating forces of a happy life are a healthy religion, sound sleep, good music & laughter”.

12) “Work is worship, work is divine, God is work and work the God”, Anonymous

13) Schwab said: There is nothing else that kills the ambition of man as criticism form his superiors. I believing giving a man incentive to work; so I am anxious to praise but loathe to find faults.

14) Shakespeare said; Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so. Preserve a right mental attitude (the attitude of courage, good cheer and frankness).

Inspirations & Lessons of Life

1) Nobody is so miserable as he who longs to be something and somebody other than the person he is in body & mind.

2) For every ailment under the Sun, there is a remedy or there is none, if there be one try to find it, if there be none never mind it.

3) I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street I met a man who had no feet.

4) Sticks & stones may break my bones but words cannot hurt me.

5) Two men looked out from prison bars, one saw mud the other saw stars.

6) He that sent me is with me, GOD has not left me alone.

7) Time solves a lot of things time may also solve what you are worrying about today.

8) GOD grants me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

9) Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.

10) The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not.

11) We may not be saintly enough to love our enemies but for the sake of our own health & happiness, let’s at least forgive & forget them.

12) If you have what seems to you to be insufficient then you will be miserable even if you possess the world.

13) Remember today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

14) Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often means that you have aroused jealousy & envy. Remember that no on every kicks a dead dog so do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of your neck.

15) The fruits of labour are sweeter than gifts of fortune.

16) We can make more friends by becoming interested in other people than by trying to get others interested in ourselves

17) The purest joy is the malicious joy we take in the misfortunes of those we have envied.

18) It is notorious that we are more polite to stranger than we are to own relatives.


19) Courtesy is that quality of hear that overlooks the broken gates and calls attention to the flowers in the yard beyond the gate.

20) I shall pass this way but once, any good therefore that I can do or ay kindness I can show to any human being, let me do it now, let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.

21) A barber lathers a man before he shaves.

22) The average man can be led readily if you have his respect and if you show that you respect him for some kind of ability.


23) If you must deal with a crook there is only one possible way of getting the better out of him, treat him as if he were an honourable gentleman.

24) The first thing to learn in intercourse with others is non-interference with their own peculiar ways of being happy provided those ways do not assume to interfere with ours.

25) If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people.

Winner & Loser

A winner changes own behavior.
A loser tries to change the behavior of others.

A winner works harder - and still has time.
A loser is always too busy to do what is necessary.

A winner emphasizes possibilities.
A loser focuses on problems.

A winner uses time to improve.
A loser uses time to avoid criticism.

A winner explains.
A loser makes excuses.

A winner focuses on solutions.
A loser focuses on apologies.

A winner commits themselves.
A loser makes promises - but does not keep them.

A winner knows when to make a stand - and when to give way.
A loser gives in when a firm stand is called for & fights for the unimportant.

A winner has respect for the ability of others and is always willing to learn from them.
A loser concentrates on other people's weaknesses.

A winner accepts other people's differences.
A loser does not accept other people's right to be different.

Understanding of those who are different from us

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. "Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've a favor to ask. I have a friend I'd like to bring home with me."

"Sure," they replied, " we would love to meet him."

"There's something you should know," the son continued, he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mine and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us."

"I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live."

"No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us."

"Son," said the father, "you don't know what you're asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden to us. We have our own lives to live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come on home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way to live on his own."

At that point, the son hung up the phone.

The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son.

They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn't know, their son had only one arm and one leg. The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don't like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.

Thankfully, there's someone who won't treat us that way. Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of how messed up we are. God does not look at the things as human beings look at. We look at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.

Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer that God gives you the strength you need to accept people as they are, and to help us all to be more understanding of those who are different from us!!!

Count your blessings

- If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day.

- If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of this world.

- If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the World's wealthy.

- If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation, you are ahead of 700 million people in the world.

- If you can attend a religious meeting without fear of harassment, arrest, torture, or death, you are more blessed than three billion people in the world.

- If you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity.

- If you can read this message, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.

Thursday, October 06, 2005

How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carneigi

Fundamental facts about worry:

1) If you want to avoid worry, do what William Osler did, "shut the iron doors on the past & future. Live in day-tight compartment".

2) If you have a worry problem, apply the formula:-
- Ask yourself, “What is the worst than can possibly happen?”
- Prepare to accept it if you have to.
- Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.

3) Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of health.
“Men who don’t know how to fight worry die young”.

Basic techniques in analyzing worry:

1) Get the facts because half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision.

2) After carefully weighing all the facts come to a decision.

3) Once a decision is carefully reached, Act! Get busy carrying out your decision & dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.

4) When you worry about a problem, write out and answer the following question:-
a) What is the problem?
b) What is the cause of problem?
c) What are possible solutions?
d) What is the best solutions?

How to break worry habit before it break you:

1) Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of actions is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing “Wibber gibbers”.

2) Don’t fuss about trifles. Don’t permit little things, the mere termites of life to run your happiness.

3) Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself, “what are the odds against this thing happening at all”.

4) Cooperate with inevitable. If you know that circumstances are beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself, “It is so, it cannot be otherwise”.

5) Let the past bury its dead. Don’t see the sawdust.

6) Put a stop loss on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth & refuse to give it anymore.

Seven ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring peace and happiness:

1) Let us fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health and hope for “our life is what our thoughts make it”.

2) Let’s never try to get even with our enemies because if we do we hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let’s do as General Eisenhover did ; Let’s never waste a minute thinking about people we don’t like.

3) a. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let us expect it.
b. Let’s remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude but to give for the joy of giving.

4) Count your blessings not your troubles.

5) Let’s not imitate others; Let's find ourselves & be ourselves for “envy is ignorance” & “imitation is suicide”.

6) Let’s try to forget our own happiness by trying to create a little happiness for
others. “when you are good to others you are good to yourself”.

How to keep from worrying about criticism:

1) Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. If often means that you have aroused jealousy & envy. Remember that on one ever kicks a dead dog.

2) Do the vey best you can and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of your neck.

3) Let us keep record of the foolish things we have done and criticize ourselves. Let us also ask for unbiased, helpful & constructive criticism.

Words of Wisdom by Garcia Marquez

1. I love you not for whom you are, but who I am when I’m by your side.

2. No person deserves your tears, and who deserves them won’t make you cry.

3. Just because someone doesn’t love you as you wish, it doesn’t mean you’re not loved with all his/her being.

4. A true friend is the one who holds your hand and touches your heart.

5. The worst way to miss someone is to be seated by his/her side and know you ‘ll never have him/her.

6. Never stop smiling, not even when you’re sad, someone might fall in love with your smile.

7. You may only be a person in this world, but for someone, you’re the world.

8. Don’t spend time with someone who doesn’t care spending it with you.

9. May be God wants you to meet many wrong people before you meet the right one, so when this happens, you’ll be thankful.

10. Don’t cry because it came to an end. Smile because it happened.

11. There will always be people who’ll hurt you, so you need to continue trusting, just be careful.

12. Become a better person and be sure to know who you are before meeting someone new and hoping that person knows who you are.

13. Don’t struggle so much, best things happen when not expected.

14. Everything that happens has a reason behind.

Organization Renewal

1. The way to right sizing is reengineering the organization:

· Continually remind co-workers whom you all work for (satisfying the customer).
· Draw organization charts in pencil, not pen.
· Think processes, not departments.
· Think flat, not tall.
· Think team, not individual leadership.
· Think bridges, not walls
· Think networks, not pyramid
· Think time, cost & customers service.
· Think cultural change.

2. Organization need to renew periodically for positioning itself for the future:

· Keep on top of trends
· Become a champion of change.
· Hire, reward and promote the best & brightest.
· Train & counsel laggards.
· Think globally, act locally.
· Innovate or abdicate.
· Develop long term commitment to customers.
· Invest in Technology, people and training.
· Stress innovation & adaptation in your talks with employees.
· Fight the complacency of success

Success is a barrier to change. When things are not broken there is no motivation to fix them. Unfortunately, that sometimes means there is no motivation to improve. “The greatest thing in this world is not so much where we are, but in what direction we are moving”.

3. A strategic plan is the guiding documents for your organizations explaining where you are going and how you will get there.

The strategic planning group should regularly revisit previous years plans as many organizations find that patterns of their strategic plans may not survive a year in today’s volatile environment.

I. Contract with a capable facilitator.
II. Schedule a fully-day retreat.
III. Assemble an effective planning team.
IV. Get inputs from employees before the planning session.
V. Develop or renew Corporate Vision statement
VI. Develop or renew your Mission statement.
VII. Finish the Corporate vision statement with values and beliefs.
VIII. Conduct an external assessment
IX. Conduct an internal assessment.
X. Brainstorm short-term objectives
XI. Brainstorm long-term objectives
XII. Arrange the objectives in priority order.
XIII. Perform a force-field analysis on each objective
XIV. Develop action plans for achieving each objective.

To get full value from strategic planning session afterwards:

XV. Create an accountability document.
XVI. Communicate the results of the session down the line.
XVII. Bring the facilitator back few months later.


4. Excerpts from Winning by Jack Welch

Excerpts from “WINNING” by Jack Welch ex CEO of General Electric for 21 years who mentored a generation of future CEO’s, have some useful inspirations for culture change, human resources development & meeting organizational objectives.

Before you become a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.

A boss is a person who sees around corners, surrounds himself with smart people and displays resilience.

Jack Welch’s Rules of the game:

1. Leaders relentlessly upgrade their team, using every encounter as an opportunity to evaluate, coach and build self-confidence.

2. Leaders make sure people not only see the vision, they live and breathe it.

3. Leaders get into everyone’s skin, exuding positive energy and optimism.

4. Leaders establish trust with candor, transparency and credit.

5. Leaders have the courage to make unpopular decisions and gut calls.

6. Leaders probe and push with a curiosity that borders on skepticism, making sure their questions are answered with action.

7. Leaders inspire risk taking and learning by setting the example.

8. Leaders celebrate.


5. Three useful quotes about organizational renewal:

“The dogmas of the quiet past are inadequate to the stormy present” – Abraham Lincoln.

Unless the Company is endowed with individual who challenge all practices and policy, it won’t be able to meet the difficult challenge of changing conditions” – Thomas V. Banoma

“The best way to predict the future is to invent it” – Allen Kay.

Wednesday, October 05, 2005

The only constant in life is change

Change is all around you. You can manage that change or let it manage you

Things are changing. It’s a different ballgame now. And status quo management won’t work. If you try to manage change the same way you’ve managed a stable routine situation, you’re going to have real problems. It’s time to switch gears. There are major challenges facing you.

How do you hang on to your good people?
How do you keep morale from dropping through the floor?

Most important, how do you get the results higher management expects of your work group?

The odds are you will be expected to get more done, maybe with fewer resources, in a shorter period of time. Is that fair or reasonable? Doesn’t matter. That’s what’s staring you in the face.

Productivity gets hammered from all sides. Your people may be upset, confused, or demoralized, but you still have to deliver results. And you have to protect the bottom line. Change is stressful. Times like these can get on your nerves. But it’s during the tough times that you have a chance to really grow, and to prove yourself. Here’s an opportunity for you to become a corporate hero.

The company really needs you now. And you will find that times of transition and change provide an opening for you to do some remarkable things with your part of the organization. Usually change is under-managed. People up and down the chain of command are frequently too resistive, too reactive, and too closely tied to their old management habits.

Following guidelines focuses on the specific management steps you can take to give a powerful performance during transition and change. Here’s how to manage change, instead of letting it manage you.

BE A CHANGE AGENT
Flexibility is one of the keys to being a good change agent

DON’T GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER

Don’t sit around waiting for permission. Instead, assume an active stance. If you wait for crystal clear signals from above regarding what you can and can’t do, your part of the organization is going to lose momentum. Empower yourself, “The best defense is a good offense”.

KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Be upbeat, positive, and enthusiastic. Look at organizational change as a personal challenge. Seek out the opportunities that change presents.

GIVE YOUR TROOPS CLEAR CUT MARCHING ORDERS

Make sure that you give your people generous management directions. Frame out their demand and assignments in specific terms, rather than leaving things general and vague. Organizational change creates many distractions, so employees need “focusing” by management.

FOCUS ON SHORT RANGE OBJECTIVES

Concentrate on quarterly, monthly, and even weekly performance targets. Keep the spotlight on your short-term goals, and give employees generous feedback regarding progress that is being made toward goal achievement.

ESTABLISH CLEAR PRIORITIES

Those who make the most noise should not necessarily get the most attention. It’s easy for a manager to end up in a fire-fighting mode, getting side-tracked by low priority issues that chew up a lot of time and energy yet have little payoff.

Frequently employees seem to assume that the last assignment is the most important one, pursuing it at the expense of more meaningful tasks.

NAIL DOWN EACH PERSON’S JOB

Help each employee identify what the “critical few,” make-or-break aspects of the job really are.

PROMISE CHANG AND SELL IT (CAREFULLY)

Part of being a responsible manager is preparing your people for change. So promise change because that’s a promise you can keep. As part of the management team, you also are responsible for helping to “sell” the changes. Employees should be given a balanced viewpoint.

GET RESISTANCE TO CHANGE OUT IN THE OPEN

The main key to managing resistance effectively is to actually invite it. Get it out into the open. Then, at least, you are in a position to analyze it and work toward overcoming it. Up to a point, resistance isn’t necessarily bad. You might think of resistance to change as being sort of like body temperature, it can go too high or too low. When resistance is too high, there will be casualties – for example, people quit, productivity is crippled, and so forth. If resistance is virtually nonexistent, it may mean your organization is over stabilized and too complacent.

RAISE THE BAR

Make them stretch. Ask more of your employees. Why? Actually, it’s better for their mental health and for company morale if they are extremely busy and don’t have time on their hands to spend worrying about the future or romanticizing the past. The performance standards you set and the objectives you put before your people should be challenging but not unrealistic.

MOTIVATE TO THE HILT

Think of this shakeup as a new energy source that can be used to your advantage as a manager. If you harness this turbulence, you can channel it along productive lines and “torque up” the organization. “Job burnout” can become a problem. You have to be the spark plug. You have to serve as the cheerleader.


ENCOURANGE RISK TAKING AND INITIATIVE

Get the message across to everyone that you will be tolerant of mistakes, but intolerant of inertia. To put it differently, let people know that you don’t expect perfection, but you will require everyone to be independent thinking, decisive, and action oriented.

DON’T TRY TO COVER ALL THE BASES YOURSELF

First, it can keep you from spreading yourself too thin and becoming too scattered. Second, good delegation gives your employees a sense of involvement. Good delegation lets your employees feel a little more in control of circumstances and events.

CREATE A SUPPORTIVE WORK ENVIRONMENT

So concentrate on shaping employees’ behaviour, instead of grading people’s behaviour. Be a coach, not a judge or umpire. You should “catch people doing something right.”

“RIDE CLOSE HERD” ON TRANSITION AND CHANGE

In times of transition for people to make mistakes or let things slip through the cracks. So show better follow-up in general.

REBUILD MORALE

Make them feel valued. Help them develop a sense of belonging. Give them a “cause” that lends meaning to their day-to-day job routine. Employee attitudes and the overall work climate are important, for both tangible and intangible reasons.

PROVIDE ADDITIONAL JOB KNOW-HOW

Nobody likes to fail. They will more readily give up the old methodology and established practices if they have the know-how to do things the new way.

PASS OUT MORE “PSYCHOLOGICAL PAYCHECKS”

But there is no limit to the intangible rewards you can provide for subordinates. These “psychological pay-checks” require little effort on your part and cost the company nothing. They represent an excellent way for you to compensate your people for the extra effort required of them during times of transition and change.

“BEEF UP” COMMUNICATION EFFORTS

Good communication is a two-way street. Be a careful listener. Take more time with people. Be available. Ask more questions. Keep employees updated on a regular basis. Strive to be specific rather than vague, candid rather than guarded.

GO LOOKING FOR BAD NEWS

Make it easy for people to tell you those things you don’t necessarily want to hear. Don’t shoot messengers who carry bad news. Make it clear that the truth is welcome.

PROTECT QUALITY AND CUSTOMER SERVICE

Studies show that it costs five times as much to develop a new customer as it costs to keep an existing one. Make customer satisfaction the top priority. Things may be changing inside your company, but the need for satisfied customers never changes.

RE-RECRUIT YOUR GOOD PEOPLE

It’s the good swimmers who are most likely to jump ship. This can drain your work group of its most capable employees at the very time when you need good performers more than ever. Romance them. Tell them you want them. Make your winners feel important. It’s high risk management to assume that your key players are going to remain on the team just because they haven’t publicly announced that they plan to leave.

TAKE CARE OF THE “ME” ISSUES IN A HURRY

The longer your subordinates have to go without closure on these “me” issues, the more likely your work group will lose momentum. Get these questions answered in a hurry, so people can get on with business.

PLAY THE ROLE OF MANAGERIAL THERAPIST

Provide opportunities for people to ventilate. Allow some of your meetings to serve as “therapy sessions.” Instead of condemning employees or disallowing their feelings – instead of arguing, getting upset, or discounting their problems – let your people express themselves. It’s part of the “healing process.”

REDUCE THE LEVEL OF JOB STRESS

Make an effort to minimize surprises as much as possible. Give people advance notice of what’s coming. Bring some fun into the work environment to prevent things from getting depressingly serious (stress).

BE SUPPORTIVE OF HIGHER MANAGEMENT

Be keenly aware of your superior’s priorities, and adjust yours accordingly. Keep in mind that higher management can see things from a different perspective, and they usually have access to important information that you don’t have. This is not an argument for blind loyalty on your part, but rather for a willingness to give your superiors the benefit of the doubt.

Another aspect of being a good subordinate is having the guts to report problems to more senior management. Finally, be big enough to ask for help. You can be a better subordinate if you are not too proud, or too afraid, to let your boss know that you’re having trouble. Report the truth, all of the truth, instead of hiding your shortcomings or glossing over problems that are developing.

BE MORE THAN A MANAGER OR SUPERVISOR, BE A LEADER

It’s easy enough for the company to put you in charge to make you boss. They can give you a title as manager of this or supervisor of that. But the company can’t make you a leader. That’s up to you. Your job title is just a label. “Leader” is a reputation and you personally have to earn it.


Excerpts taken from The Handbook for Managing and Supervising Organizational Change
co-authored by Price Pritchett & Ron Pound.

Attitude

If
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
is equal to
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26

Then to sum-up the figures of :-


H A R D W O R K
8 + 1 + 18 + 4 + 23 + 15 + 18 + 11 = 98%

K N O W L E D G E = 96%
L O V E = 54%
L U C K = 47%
M O N E Y = 72%
L E A D E R S H I P = 97%

But if we calculate

ATTITUDE 1 + 20 + 20 + 9 + 20 + 21 + 4 + 5 + = 100%

Attitude makes a big difference in life